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Watching Numb3rs (season 3, off of Netflix) with my husband TJ last Friday night, and Larry compares Megan to the complexities of the Nebula 57. I look over at TJ…


ME: Why don't you compare me to the Nebula 57?

TJ: Because I don't know what the Nebula 57 is. Should I compare thee to a summer day?

ME: Muggy? Overheated? Sneezy from all the allergies?

TJ: How about pie?

ME: Oh great, now I’m cheesy on the outside? [reference to Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog] I'm just saying you've never compare me to anything.

TJ: I've compared you to an Ent Wife.

ME: Oh, that's flattering. You said my fastest pace is a mosey, and I grow roots.

TJ: *just grins*

We've been together 13+ years, plus 6 years of friendship before that. We haven't changed much in all that time. Still best friends.

He still threatens me with ice cubes when I get too snarky, and I threaten him with sleeping on the couch.


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Rant: Homosexual vs Heterosexual Marriage


David, an old friend of mine, once presented this solution to the marriage issue to me, and I have to agree with him whole heartedly. So I want you to think about this question very carefully: 


Why does the government have ANY say over marriage of ANY kind?


To get married, to pledge your life to another, to vow to be in unity with someone for the rest of your life, is an intensely spiritual moment. It's between me and the one I love and God, and the only person who I should get permission from is the priest who


But we have to get PERMISSION from our government before we can perform this spiritual, religious rite. We have to apply for a LICENSE, requesting the government's permission, proving that we meet the government's standards before we are allowed to bind our souls to another person.


What happened to separation of church and state?


I can't think of any culture where a wedding isn't a religious or spiritual rite. Whatever culture and religion we come from, it is to our spiritual leaders and houses of worship we go to say our vows and rituals performed.


Government should have no say in this.


If two people want to unite their lives, the only permission they should get is from God and the priest that they request to reside over the marriage.


When it comes to marriage, government should instead be in the business of creating Financial Civil Unions between people. This Civil Union should be available for anybody, regardless of sexual orientation.


Imagine this scenario:

Two young HETEROSEXUAL men decide to live together during college. They buy an old house that they're are going to fix up. They each even have their own girlfriends, who live with them or don't. Doesn't matter. Maybe they rent some of the rooms out to other college students.

They decide to pull their resources into one bank account to cover their housing expenses. Banking, taxes, and insurance, it just makes more sense to work together since they both own the house.

After college they sell the house for a profit and both go their separate ways, dissolving their union.

OR maybe they buy another fixer upper, marry their girlfriends, and live as one big happy family, sharing expenses and raising their children together. A whole new way of looking at our communities.


In the end, what business does our government have in meddling with our bedroom affairs?

Whimsy 6.26.2013


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STATUS:


project: BREAKING ANGELINA
series: Paranormal Investigation, #1.5
word count: 19K
percentage: 95% complete
goal this week: 2K
Only TWO scenes left.

EXCERPT:



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Rita's Secret Weightloss Tips: 4 Simple Rules to Keep You Healthy

I gained a lot of weight when I started pursuing my goal of becoming a published writer. I'd work my day job and then stay up late at night to write into the wee hours of the morning, and then I used CAFFEINE and SUGAR to get my foggy, tired brain to function through the day.


Stress, lack of sleep, lack of exercise, food allergies, and too much sugar. Enough to make anybody gain weight.


The last 2 years, I learned to balance life and work and family and struggled to find myself again. Dance classes, zumba and weight lifting at the YMCA, making jewelry, spending more time with the kids.


In the process of losing weight, I've learned some all important rules:


1. Muscle boosts your metabolism by burning calories even while you are sitting still.

Muscle definition is SEXY. Take 2 skinny people who are the same height and wear the same size clothes, but one has muscle and the other doesn't. The one with muscle will weigh more but look better.

Muscle also helps you maintain your weight so that you don't get yourself into trouble again.

So I lift weights, go dancing, read books on the elliptical, and ZUMBA about 4 times a week. LIFTING WEIGHTS is an important part of it.


2. Eat 6 small meals a day.

For me, this works out to 2 meals and 4 snacks (a handful of nuts or some fruit). This keeps my blood sugar levels from dropping, keeps me from going into starvation mode, keeps my muscles healthy, keeps me from reaching for all the unhealthy foods I shouldn't eat.


3. Make wise eating choices.

Eat to support your exercise routines!

I have a BREAKFAST full of proteins. Since I can't have eggs, I have FISH every morning with some fruit and chocolate almond milk.

More fruit, less sugar.

More healthy fats (nuts, olive oil, fish, avocados), less fried foods and animal fats. I never skimp on healthy fats, which can be as much as 50% of my diet. It helps keep the hunger at bay.

More whole grains, less refined foods.

Drink tea and water instead of soda.

Notice how all my wise food choices replace bad foods with good foods? Focusing on what you CAN have helps to keep you from reaching for what you CAN'T.

If I say, "I won't eat brownies, even though I love all their chocolatey goodness," my focus is on the brownies, and all I can think about is how deprived I am.

But if I say, "I'm going to have strawberries, juicy and sweet and yummy." I am enjoying the foods I eat and reveling in my new found health. It's an important mind trick for any behavior change you want to make in your life.


4. Sleep and rest and destressify!

God really was thinking about us when he created the Sabbath Day. It's a time for spiritual, physical, and psychological renewal, and we suffer if we don't get it.

And without it, we have bad luck because we're worn thin and brittle and everything around is grows spiritually depleted as well. Which means all that self destruction that I caused by focusing on my writing goals to the exclusion of all else was a POINTLESS WASTE OF TIME. I couldn't have achieved my goals when I was spiritually, mentally, physcially depleted.

An empty soul has nothing within it to produce art.


Because I'm replacing fat with muscle, my results are slow. In total, I've lost about 10 pounds, with about 25 more to go, but I've also lost at least an inch off my waist.


Most importantly, I'm happy with myself.

Whimsy 6.19.13




Welcome to Whimsical Writer's Wonderful WIP Wednesday!



STATUS:

project: BREAKING ANGELINA
series:  Paranormal Investigation, #1.5
word count: 18K
percentage: 90% complete
goal this week: 2K
Good news! I ordered the book cover from my favorite artist: Regina Wamba. She's done all my book covers, and I've never been disappointed.  Anyway, cover will be ready in August.  


EXCERPT:

SITTING UP ON the top shelf, the black cat licks her paws. “You want to give someone pimples or a bad hair day? Nobody is creative any more. Nobody wants to turn someone into a frog or a tasty mouse.”


“I wouldn’t do anything like that to anybody.” And Hearing voices wasn’t enough; now I’m arguing with cats. All the symptoms of a paranoid schizo. Next, I’ll have delusions of super powers and believe helicopters are spying in my windows.

Closing my eyes, I will the illusion to go away, but when I open them again, she’s still there.






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My Hobbies

I don't have a lot of time after all my responsibilities: Day Job, Writing, Marketing, Homeschooling, Life...

And somehow I still find time for hobbies (it's called LACK OF SLEEP):

#1. Reading!!!

Just finished Death's Rival this weekend. Great book, and now I can't wait to read the next one. *kicks TJ in the shin*

He looks up from his book. "Huh? What?"

I just glare.

He gives me an evil grin and goes back to his book.




#2. Dancing

I keep a busy schedule full of dance classes ... as well as Zumba and weight lifting and running on the elliptical. Just trying to stay in shape and have fun doing it.

Hip Hop, Jazz, Tap, Ballet (which I'm terrible at), Lyrical, and Contemporary (my favorite).

And I've performed several dances in front of a live audience of 500+ people!

Photography by Alexander Yakovlev

#3. RPG games with TJ and friends

The kind with dice rather than on a computer.


pic found on RedBubble
 # 4. Jewelry Making

Useful because I've been making some of my own swag, like this bookmark.